First lawsuit against Penn State and Jerry Sandusky is brought

http://espn.go.com/college-football/story/_/id/7298112/penn-state-nittany-lions-scandal-first-jerry-sandusky-sex-abuse-lawsuit-comes-new-accuser


The first lawsuit has been brought against Jerry Sandusky and Penn State University as well as the Second Mile Charity Foundation which was run and created by Jerry Sandusky. There are 8 different accusers in the court case pending against Sandusky but the lawsuit was brought by a 9th un-named victim who himself had said he thought he was the only boy abused until he read the grand jury indictment. 


I'm glad that the punitive and monetary portions of this monstrosity have begun because the victims could face a lifetime of aftercare in regards to the emotions, depression, anxiety and other possible feelings that will no doubt surface throughout their lives. The treatment that is necessary is not only expensive but it's very time consuming depending on how in depth you have been affected.

The victims who have spoken out have talked about decades of abuse at the hands of Jerry Sandusky who was a mentor, hero if you will to them. I would think they have scars that will take just as long if not longer to heal as they were abused in time lengthwise. The trust that was abused and taken advantage of can touch several different facets of their lives including everything from damaging possible healthy relationships with family, friends, and loved ones, anxiety and depression can cause difficulty in sleeping, and even maintaining a schedule and following through on day to day activities. 


I really hope and wish that all of these boys/young men now have the chance to work through all of the pain they have suffered at the hands of this monster and even though money isn't going to bring back their innocence and childhood years they more then deserve the time to get away and relax while putting themselves in a living situation where they can maintain a healthy living style and start getting the longterm help they need.

Is anyone out there listening? Hello? Can we all just have a little common sense?

Ok, so now we have a 6 year old, YES THAT'S NOT A MIS-PRINT, THE BOY IS FUCKING 6 YEARS OLD, that has been charged with sexual assault. Not only has he been charged, but the little girl whom he is accused of "assaulting" by putting his finger in her anus while playing doctor, has said that he only touched her on the outside. So let me get this straight, the boy says he didn't do this, the girl says he didn't do this, but because her parents feel that he did(it's been said they are well known political figures) he's been charged with a crime that could leave him with a black mark for life....for the next 100 years this boy could have to register as a sex offender, alert every town police department when he changes residences so they are aware, choose his residence based on the location and proximity of schools and daycares in the area and other necessary precautions against sex offenders, NOT A 6 YEAR OLD.

My Take: Alright, for this post i'm going to just call the boy TOM(THIS IS NOT HIS REAL NAME PEOPLE) so let's figure this out....Did Tom do anything wrong? Yes. What would I do if I had walked in and it was my daughter in this situation being touched? I would be very angry, I probably would yell and maybe even tell Tom's parents he is no longer allowed to be anywhere that my daughter is or i'm going to file a report so it's on record or something. Hopefully, once I calmed down and thought what's happened through, along with hearing the parents explanation, hopefully after they called to apologize and I accepted while we talked like adults, I realized that Tom had himself been to the doctors and had a rectal exam. Unfortunately he didn't realize this wasn't something that should be going on and he was repeating what happened, just as kids often do. Tom parents assured me that not only would the kids not leave their sight but Tom feels terrible about everything that happened and wants to apologize to my daughter(meanwhile she doesn't even know anything wrong happened until I sat her down).


This would be an ideal scenario, obviously when it's your own kids it's a scary situation, we will always fear the worst, hope for the best, hopefully we have made sure our kids are playing with other children that have responsible parents, are being monitored appropriately and everything was immediately resolved and the kids now know the difference between what a real doctor does and what playing your allowed to do.


 I don't see how with the facts we've learned about the case in the article a charge of sexual assault can be made. THE BOY IS 6 YEARS OLD, clearly there was a reason that he was doing this, as stated above, he's had it done to him, didn't realize anything was wrong, now that he knows i'm sure it won't happen again. I'm not a professional though, to be safe how about we send him to counsiling to ease his anxiety with the entire situation now, it's obviously hurting both of the children. Let's be the adults and get them the help they need instead of fighting like 6 year olds. Sound like a good plan? I'm amazed at how childish parents can get when they don't get what they want. Is this something you want to happen to your child? ABSOLUTELY NOT! Is this something that your going to make worse but making national headlines? ABSOLUTELY! 


I hope both these kids get the help they need, it sounds like at least they both have loving homes, which is more then a lot of abused kids can say.



STORY ORIGINALLY SEEN POSTED BY +BRAD CUMMINGS IN MY GOOGLE+ STREAM

http://www.care2.com/causes/6-year-old-charged-with-sexual-assault-for-playing-doctor.html

In "Bernie's World" it's fine to molest boys...

http://espn.go.com/espn/otl/story/_/id/7286347/otl-audio-tape-syracuse-orange-assistant-bernie-fine-wife-admits-worries-abuse


In another strange twist to the Syracuse sexual abuse scandal it's now came to light that Bernie Fine's wife knew of the sexual abuse he was engaging in but felt powerless to stop it. Abuse victim Bobby Davis, the Syracuse ball boy who has come forward and captured national headlines with his heartbreaking stories of abuse at the hands of his hero, Bernie Fine. Davis slept over at the Fine's house in the basement from before he was 10 years old for years and the sexual abuse continued throughout the next two decades. Finally, at the age of 27, Bobby Davis got up the strength and willpower to put a stop to Fine's vile advances.

The shame, guilt, confusion and depression that has griped him throughout his young life can be attributed to the years of torture at the hands of someone he both trusted and admired since he didn't have a father figure around and developed his feelings based on Fine's words and guidance from such a young age on.

UPDATE: SYRACUSE UNIVERSITY FIRED ASSISTANT COACH BERNIE FINE AFTER MORE EVIDENCE CAME TO LIGHT RECENTLY SUCH AS THE TAPED PHONE CALL I SPOKE ABOUT AND IS INVESTIGATED IN THE ARTICLE ABOVE.

http://espn.go.com/mens-college-basketball/story/_/id/7288286/bernie-fine-fired-syracuse-orange-amid-molestation-allegations

Shy, Passive, Intelligent, Average, Un-Athletic, Hard-Worker, and Awkward.

Losers from Everynone on Vimeo.


Take the 2:31 out of your life and watch this video. Then take the next 2:31 and think about your own situation now and the childhood moments that you still carry in the back of your mind.....the one where some older kids made fun of that outfit you wore the first day of school, the one when you tried to sit down at a table that was empty except for 2 kids talking and they told you they didn't want losers like you at their table in front of your entire class, or after school you wanted to play some pick-up basketball and you watched as kid after kid went to each team and then it just stopped, they didn't need anymore then 10.


 But instead of just walking away you ask if you can just stay and alternate in if they don't mind, after some laughing the captain points over towards where a group of girls are all talking and says to stand over there. As you excitedly start walking over, thinking about how relieved you are to finally have someone just leave you be for once and you realize that the girls are laughing, and now they're looking at you. What's going on? The captain, one of the most popular guys in school just told me I could stand over here, i'm playing in a little right? 


A yell comes across the court, "hey loser, after we finish up this game let us know how cheerleader tryouts go!"  Excitement and relief turn into confusion and embarrassment, your pace picks up as you just try and get out of sight before they see your face, they can't see you like this, they just can't it'll get even worse, I can't do this anymore, why even bother?


 Every person at the school knows what a loser I am and i'm supposed to be the guy eating lunch by himself in the bathroom, reading a book alone in an empty classroom when you see all the other kids going out to grab some food together, playing catch outside, just hanging out talking to the girls in their class....why can't someone just let me stand with them, they don't even have to talk to me, i'll be quiet, if I ever get the chance, i'm promising myself right now that i'm not going to mess it up by talking! 


Now whether your flashback put you in the position of the hunter or the huntee you need to realize how serious the situation has become nowadays. This isn't something that you tell your kid to just brush it off and man up! You can't just ignore it your whole life, you shouldn't have to either, you don't deserve to be treated that way. 


I feel it's my duty to speak out because like many of you out there i've been on both ends of the spectrum. When your having to deal with the stress of being bullied on top of the everyday complications and pressue that kids and young adults feel the world really becomes a dark place. I've never once told a friend, relative or any of my family how much it hurt, it was my problem to deal with. I wanted to make my father proud of me, he'd be so disappointed if he saw me just walking away pitifully while the vultures laughed at me, not standing up for myself, not being tough.


There are so so so so many feelings that are bouncing around when your going through puberty that sometimes it can look like you have a damn split personality. Mood swings become more and more noticeable and freequent, the depression starts showing enough that others see it, feels harder and harder to be around people and it just seems like your the only one. Everyone else looks happy, the way you feel is embarrassing so you don't want to really bring it up to anyone. 


All of this is typical stuff, lots and lots and lots of kids have felt, acted, talked, thought, about every single situation more then once. The thing is, they need to know that there IS somewhere they can go and talk openly and freely, there IS someone that's not going to judge them, they NEED to feel comfortable enough that they can get those things upsetting them or holding them back off their chest. 


Kids these days deal with problems that we probably never even dreamed that was something they'd be thinking about before their damn near 20, or at least out of high school. That's where its important for parents to be close enough that your kids know you are there NO MATTER WHAT, there is nothing they are going to do that's going to make you stop loving them, PERIOD. But no so close that you make their lives even harder then it already is. And if you see someone that seems like they're hurting, maybe they don't want to sit down and tell a stranger all about it but just being a friend by saying hi would make the world of a difference. You'd be surprised what a smile can do for someone that feels no one cares and they are all alone.


Help when you can, be there when you can, listen when you can.....it matters.

Amit Gupta- Sufferer of Acute Leukemia

The post below is from Stumbleupon.com and was written by Katie, the social media manager as you can see. I would have just posted the link but I wanted to make sure AS MANY PEOPLE SEE EXACTLY WHAT THIS IS ALL ABOUT. I know sometimes a post can catch your eye and then you lose interest and it's click click and your already reading the next sites headlines. I myself do it often, but this isn't the time to stop reading.

 Although I don't personally "know" Amit, I know of his work and I know through dealing with losses in my life what news of a major disease can do to someone, their family, their friends. If there is a site to be tested near your, take the time if you can. It takes 10 minutes including filling out the paperwork and since the test is complete with only a swab of your cheek it's totally painless. AGAIN....THAT MEANS NO PAIN!!! Not a prick of the needle, not just one tube of blood, or a spinal tap for bone marrow....just a swab of your cheek. This is one of those times I talk about so much, let's show what kind of people we are, put out your hand to help if you can......

Help Save Amit’s Life

Thursday, November 10th, 2011

Meet Amit Gupta: founder of Photojojo and Jelly, organizer of entrepreneurial events like BarCamp, thought leader who contributed to a WSJ best-seller about remarkable businesses, and an all-around great guy. Unfortunately, the most recent descriptor he’s taken on is acute leukemia sufferer, and he has less than 20 days to find a bone marrow match. What’s making matters worse is that because Amit is of South Asian descent, he’s severely underrepresented in the donor pool. Most people have an 80% chance of finding a donor, but for South Asians, that number drops to 1 in 20,000.

Photojojo founder and entrepreneur Amit Gupta.

The tech world has already responded to Amit’s need and organized swab drives around the world to help Amit find his match. We’ll be hosting our own drive on Wednesday, November 16 from 2 to 6 pm PST at StumbleUpon headquarters in the SoMA neighborhood of San Francisco. More details can be found on our MeetUp page, or you can go ahead and sign up for a slot now (you may need to click on November 16 to locate the time options). The appointment takes only 10 minutes and involves filling out paperwork and using a cotton swab to collect a saliva sample. Totally painless. For more on what to expect from a swab drive, check out this FAQ.

Also, if you’re organizing a bone marrow swab drive of your own, email helpamit@stumbleupon.com with the URL you’ve set up for the cause and we’ll give you a code to redeem for $250 worth of Paid Discovery traffic. You’ll be able to reach Stumblers anywhere!

If you’re not in the San Francisco area, check out the drives happening around the country here: http://amitguptaneedsyou.tumblr.com/calendar.

There’s no better use for social media than to help people in need, so let’s tap the power of the crowd.

Stumble On,

Katie
Social Media Manager

Part 1- I used Sports, Alcohol, Sex and Drugs to hide it

Whether your 10, 20, 50 or 100 if your violated sexually it's going to effect different people different ways and for some their life changes course so sharply that they are never able to regain control. Sometimes it's reported but the stigma attached to be a "victim" can follow you around forever. You may think you can just put it out of your mind, no one even needs to know about it, you'll just be more careful and avoid where it happened. You feel embarassed anyways, why couldn't you just stop it from happening? Your obviously weak, what kind of idiot let's that kind of stuff happen to them, well, I def can't tell anyone cause then I probably couldn't even get a job in this area, I love it here and if this gets out every business will know how weak I am mentally and then forget about anything physical.

At first it's nothing THAT serious, little acting out but you do well enough in school that your parents don't really notice anything, plus with all of the sports that come with practice's nearly everyday you don't really have time to think about any of that. Start talking to a few of the "bad" kids at school, that kind of stuff could never happen to them, there way too tough, maybe you should just be more like them? In your head you know that's not you, whether it's because you want someone to see you smoking a cigarette and your acting out or it's just a diversion I grew out of it pretty quick.


Next up was my best friend and evolved into someone that was so important to me throughout high school and college years that rarely did I go more then 12-18 hours without seeing them and we NEVER used protection.....I blacked out literally more times then I didn't and by the time I was asked about looking at my liver by the doctor I was told that I've aged my liver over 20 beyond my actual age. I still to this day don't like beer and I never did, started with vodka because it was the cheapest half gallon, 7.99 for a Zarkoff 1.75 liter bottle. That was about 16ish and continued until around 25. I've been through more moments where I should have died then I care to say, more then 5 different occasions that either a paramedic or doctor told me there is no way I should have made it....I'm not saying this to brag and I'm not proud of it by any means, at least not now.  I grew up doing my best to show I was the worst, I felt bad for myself and I let that control a lot more then I should have but it took those 10 years plus a few more to relize that.


ESPN commentator Rick Reilly on what was Penn State....

I eventually ended up in the hospital with alchohol poisoning and that was the last date I had with Vodka, we fought too much with each other and somehow when we were together I always ended up angry, yelling, drunk, and telling someone what I bitch I thought they were and if they stepped on my "Timb's" again I was giong to kill them....immature drunks guys, much much to much to drink to realize we were probably yelling over nothing 9/10, showing off to girls, and looked pretty stupid. Oh and for the record if you don't know, Timb's are Timberland boots. Just one of those random things that can happen when you get 150 drunk kids all in a room with girls, alcohol, beer pong which breeds competition, and obviously no "real" adults around for miles, haha.

Next up was Hot Damn, then Peppermintschnapps, then Goldschlagger, then it was Bacardi rum for the next probably 3-4 years before I switched to Crown Royal and then back to Bacardi and lastly attempted White Russian's but ended up abandoning that whore because she did not like me anymore and I ended up running to the bathroom and massacring that place floor to ceiling....not good, lol.....so I ended up finding a nice relaxing mix of Kahlua/Bailey's+Milk


Be ready for Part 2 this coming week.....